A Sing-Along for This Season

Marking the seasons with music.
Reclaiming myself through music

In late July, I announced my newly renamed page, “Reclaiming Mary”, was coming soon. Like a shot, I set off to work on redesigning and redefining my page. With my daughter by my side, we discussed issues like readability, content, and site design. She wrote posts and created backup files of all my old “Transitioning Mom” posts. I ordered new business cards and created order out of chaos in my filing cabinets and my newly repurposed schoolroom. Busy work kept me busy and kept from the most important task: WRITING.

Fueled with excuses like, “I’m not done redesigning the blog” and  “I should take care of that hangnail, right now!” I absolved myself of writing. Time, when spent delaying duty, is not my friend. Enthusiasm morphs into fear when the voices of self-doubt and perfectionism (my ever faithful demons) begin to sing their familiar songs, “Oh, that page looks bad. Really bad.” “Who will want to read this?” “Do you even know what you are doing?”

Far too easily, I stepped away from the keyboard and allowed other tasks to steal my neatly carved out writing time.

Late last week, as I walked around the yard and mulled over what I needed to do to the page to make it “perfect”, I heard a (reasonable) little voice inside my head say, “There is rarely a perfect time to get married, have a baby, or go on the adventure trip of a lifetime, but the world keeps spinning and few regret the leap.” I realized then I needed to jump in the pool again.

Thankfully, before any voice of procrastination derailed  my internal pep-talk, the fabulous Ruth, of Cranium Crunches, suggested a “Sing Along” post to our blogging FB group. The directions were simple: post 4 or 5 songs (with lyrics because sing-alongs are great exercises for the brain) that reflect my life as it is, right now. Music, I believe, weaves moments of our lives together, creating a fabric of memories captured in song. More often than not, a song flashes me back to college when my best friend and I sang about “the boys of summer”, or suddenly “sitting on the dock of the bay” with my husband years ago, or dancing once again at the farmer’s market with my little “brown-eyed girl”. Music provides the song track to our mental scrapbooks, becoming another character in our life’s play. This particular prompt has challenged me to be in the moment–this moment– and capture where and who I am today, in this season of life. In music and in life, this is a good season and this prompt, I decided, created the ideal foundation for me to introduce Reclaiming Mary.

Won’t you sing along with me?

DAY 1 by Matthew West

Last December, I was in a bad car accident. Though I had no broken bones and only a few bruises, my primary injury was significant. The impact caused my airbags to deploy with a force that simultaneously saved me from further injury and gave me my 4th concussion in a decade’s time. At the hospital, I secretly reasoned with myself that I had recovered “just fine” previously, and the ER doc released me after the tests showed no bleeding in the brain and I could answer the date and name the current president (or something like that. Honestly, I don’t remember.) It took a few days before the full effects of my brain injury started to manifest. Thankfully, Ruth, who has made brain health her life’s mission after suffering her own traumatic brain injury (TBI), got online with me and started coaching me in my recovery. Little did I know things would and did get tougher before they started to get better. “Reclaiming Mary” has taken on both literal and figurative meanings as my TBI has changed my life in many ways. However, unlike my memory and sometimes my speech,  Matthew West makes my vision for this day and every day forward abundantly clear.

Landslide by Stevie Nicks

Last spring, when I graduated my second born from high school, the homeschooling job I began 18 years ago came to an end. With my older daughter back in Missouri for her senior year in college and my younger daughter blissfully happy at our local community college, their daily need for mama has waned. However, this is still a season of transition for all of us. I’m still mom, shipper of care packages, receiver of late night texts, and last minute editor of papers. And, while I am in the process of reclaiming me, this song is still one of my favorite anthems about motherhood and life’s seasons, as I wrote about here.

I Won’t Give Up by Jason Mraz

Including our time before marriage, my husband and I are fast approaching 3 decades together. (Yes, we started dating when I was 5.) Before children, it was easier to keep our eyes focused on each other and tend our relationship, always making time to share and listen to each other as well as carve out time for a weekend get-away, keeping the spice fresh.  Even when the children were small, we kept “us” a priority, knowing the dangers children and their uncanny ability to suck the life out of marriage can bring. As our children got older, evenings and weekends were filled with extra-curricular activities, homework, and home maintenance projects in addition to our many other “must do’s.” Like so many, our marriage has gone through more ebbs and flows while raising a family than the great Mississippi River. And, like that great river, we are still here, now flowing into new territory. Marriage in mid-life and with adult children is a new adventure with a familiar friend. With newly found time to share and listen and even enjoy a weekend get-away and more, this is our season of rediscovering and reclaiming each other.

Burning Gold by Christina Perri

The subtitle of “Reclaiming Mary” is “The Adventures of a Midlife Renewal.” I am jumping into this season with abandon. I am embracing work projects and reconnecting with friends and discovering new adventures and creative outlets. I scour my Groupon emails, Pinterest, and Meet-up groups for new things to try and am forcing myself outside my comfort zone. Though I am perhaps busier than I have been in years, I feel so very alive as I reclaim my time as mine and reconnect with old dreams while embracing new ones. These winds are most certainly carrying change.

Raindrops Keep Falling On My Head – BJ Thomas

This was my very favorite song when I was little. Every time it came on, I turned up the volume on my small round yellow transistor radio until the speaker crackled. I didn’t care. I knew the song by heart and always sang along. In many ways, this song brings full-circle meaning to “Reclaiming Mary.”  In reclaiming myself, I am revisiting who I was, rediscovering forgotten interests and beliefs and, though I have changed in some areas, one thing has remained constant; I am an eternal optimist.

So, there is the music of my life. The songs that have been woven into the fabric of my memories, marking this season as the season I began Reclaiming Mary.

What are the songs that are marking this season in your life today?

25 thoughts on “A Sing-Along for This Season”

  1. Very nicely done. I feel much the same — music, whether playing in the background or the forefront of our lives and minds, does so much to enrich us. Sometimes just knowing that the thoughts we have are shared by others (thank you to lyricists and poets!) can make any transition easier to glide through. You’ve got some of my favourite songs and artists on this list — we’ll need to compare musical libraries sometime.

    (I sang “Fly Me to the Moon” and “Operator” to my boy while rocking, feeding or soothing him, as well as “Slow Burning Fire”. Now that he’s almost 12, I still sneak those in sometimes when he has trouble falling asleep. I ask if I should sing to him, he chuckles and says no, I do it anyway, and he’s asleep before I get them finished.)


  2. Fabulous songs to kick off your new site and your new reclamation efforts! Love this. Cheers to you in healing, moving forward, and making the most of this moment in your life.

    My song for today: Keep Pushing On by REO Speedwagon!


  3. Raindrops Keep Falling On My Head is a great (and rather unexpected) favorite song for a kid. My favorite song as a kid was Moon River. Although I didn’t understand most of the lyrics. (Still don’t.)


    1. Thank you, Roz, for reading and commenting. Moon River is the song I used to sing to my one-time infant girls during our middle-of-the-night feedings and rockings. Of course, I didn’t really know much more than just the chorus, but it brings fond memories.


  4. I little trivia: did you know Stevie Nicks wrote “Landslide” as a tribute to her Dad? SO changes the way I listen to that song.


    1. I did know that. I think it expresses the duality in the relationship between parent and child. There are a couple of others that I know are tributes to fathers: “This is It” by Kenny Loggins (he revised it in tribute to his dad and this is one of my favorite songs; carried me through many crossroads in my life) and “In the Living Years” by Mike and the Mechanics (written by the lead singer (Mike ___________) upon the loss of his father and his failure to make it back in time to say goodbye (which I listen to when I want to “share time” with my dad, whom I lost in 2001.)
      Thanks for reading and commenting.


  5. Mary, I wish I knew as many current tunes as well as you do. That leaves me gratified that you and your followers reference some oldies that I recognize but don’t really identify with right now, as well as some semi-oldies, like at least from this century, that I do. “Happy” and “Don’t Worry Be Happy” do justice to my current situation. I wish I’d adopted the philosophy of the latter well before I became an empty nester since, while I was responsible for EVERYTHING in my kid’s lives it might have made it easier for me to take a step back and enjoy them then as I do now.


  6. Oh, Mary. Every word that passes between us affirms our sisterhood.

    Today, my song is “Leaving on a Jet Plane,” as Mr. Wonderful and I head off for a weekend in NYC. But every day it’s “Happy.” Because I feel like a room without a roof. Thanks for being part of my happy.

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  7. Excellent, Mary. I just took another giant step forward to learning more about you,/Transitioning, Wonderful, Fascinating, Big-Hearted Mary. Love the music that I am not familiar with as well. Thanks to Ruth once more for allowing my brain to remain active. xo


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